Hi blogtarts- I've been a little behind lately in my posting, only because I've been so busy with post-blogher stuff for work, as well as preparing for a 2 week vacation. I've accumulated a few awards from some awesome bloggers and I'm so thankful. I will post about them soon, I promise. In addition, I thought I'd start a new G3B tradition: The Sunday Confessional. Hope you like it :)
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I spent a good part of last night catching up with a friend who I haven't seen in over 6 months. He's really an amazing person, but because he lives in Baltimore, I only get to see him when I come in to visit my family. Plus, apparently his (ex) girlfriend didn't like me...
The sad thing is, this isn't the first time I've heard this. Trust me, I'm no home wrecker, but girls don't really like me spending time with their significant others. I don't think it has to do with me specifically, because in many cases, the girlfriend hasn't even met me. No, it's not who I am, but who I represent: female competition. And you know what? As much as I think it's unfair to tell your boyfriend he can't spend time with his female friends, I sort of understand the sentiment.
You see, I don't believe in platonic relationships. As much as I want to say having a guy friend is just that, a guy that is your friend, I don't actually think this type of relationship exists. There's always something that pulls guy and girl friends together. Whether you start thinking your friend is cute, or get jealous of his girlfriend, two things that I must admit have happened to me in the past, it's bound to happen.
Now, though I don't generally think you can maintain a platonic friendship, I feel there are a few exceptions:
1) If it's not a strong friendship to begin with- if you're really closer to being "acquaintances," you may not develop feelings for the other person.
2) If he's your friend's boyfriend- this only works out if you were friends with her first. Otherwise, he's fair game, at least in the feelings department.
I'd like to say that since recent events (aka the heartbreak of '09) I'm in the market for a new boy best friend. The truth is, sometimes I miss having a boy to talk to. But what I've come to learn is that I can't get close to a boy without developing feelings for him. So, either we maintain a very superficial friendship or the platonic nature of the friendship is destroyed .
Hi. My name is Alana, and I'm a ball of emotions. I fall often and I fall hard.